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Blending families

For two households becoming one, where the children were here before the relationship was.

Who this is for

Two households are becoming one, and the children were here before the relationship was.

What it is

Positions stated separately on the children and the money, both readings side by side, and a brief covering wills and guardianship.

The steps, in order

You can take them out of order. Nothing here locks a module, and no step waits on the one before it.

  • Ground Conditions

    What you saw growing up, and what you do now.

    What each household took as normal, which is now two sets of normal in one house.

  • Horizon

    Eight things that reorganise a life.

    Children, ageing parents and what happens to what, with a position each.

  • Legal Instruments

    What each document does, and what it cannot.

    Wills, guardianship, and what happens if one of you dies first. A brief to hand a solicitor.

  • Your Terms

    Ten sections. Plain language. Both signatures.

    The family section, written for the household you are actually building.

A route, not a gate

A route is a named list of modules with something written down at the end of it. Nothing in a route locks anything, and you can take the steps out of order.

Why a route rather than a list

Thirty-two modules is a lot to look at when you do not yet know which of them you need. A route is somebody having already answered that: these ones, in this order, because the earlier ones give the later ones something to work from. The Structural Report is easier to write an agreement from than a blank page, and it needs two finished Soundings before it exists at all.

What it does not do

It does not lock anything, and it is not a course. Nothing is withheld until you finish a step, there is no schedule, and stopping halfway costs you nothing — what you wrote stays written and the modules stay open. Where a module genuinely needs both of you, that module is what waits, exactly as it would if you had opened it on your own.

What it never shows either of you

A route shows where each of you has got to and nothing else. It does not record how long anything took, or how long the other one has left something undone. Elapsed time is not a number this product prints about a person.