The relationship agreement for couples who live together
Say what you each expect.
Write down what you agree.
Money, time, boundaries, what happens if it ends: the things that are easy to assume and hard to say. You each answer privately, see where your expectations meet and where they don’t, then write your terms together, sign them, and come back to them as life changes.
England and Wales · for two people who live together, or are about to
Your partner never sees your answers · No compatibility score, no verdict · Not legal advice: a solicitor makes the legal documents
What you make together
Actual screens · Static examples
A starting point for a conversation — and a record of what you decide. These examples are not editable.
Start with something familiar
Same life.
Different assumptions.
Living together doesn’t mean thinking alike. The useful conversation starts when you can see what each of you meant.
See how those conversations become terms ↗Money · an illustrative conversation
One of you assumes
“Of course we’ll split everything equally.”
The other is thinking
“I thought we’d pay according to what we earn.”
Something you could agree
We’ll agree how to share costs, and revisit that when our incomes change.
Time · an illustrative conversation
One of you assumes
“Evenings are our time together.”
The other is thinking
“I need some evenings to myself.”
Something you could agree
We’ll make room for time together and time alone, without having to guess.
Home · an illustrative conversation
One of you assumes
“If something needs doing, just do it.”
The other is thinking
“I don’t want to be the one who always notices.”
Something you could agree
We’ll agree who owns each household task, including noticing and planning it.
An illustrative conversation, not a prescribed answer.
From “I assumed” to “we agreed”.
The Sounding: Forty-eight statements. Twelve minutes.
The Sounding
Answer separately, without having to agree on the answers.
Your Survey
Your own full profile at the end, yours to keep.
Report
Bring two profiles together. Make different expectations visible, before deciding what to do about them.
Your Terms
Turn the conversation into shared terms. Write them in your own words, sign, then revisit as life changes.
You can start with yourself. Your full profile is useful on its own. A shared Report and Your Terms need both people’s answers.
48 statements. Twelve minutes. Your full profile at the end, yours to keep. We never ask for a card.
The point isn’t perfect agreement
It’s knowing where
you both stand.
You might have different ideas about money. Different needs for space. Different definitions of “doing your share”. That isn’t a verdict. It’s something to talk about.
Terms of Us makes those differences visible, then leaves the decisions where they belong: with the two of you.
If you’d rather read first
Four free guides
The guides offer another way into the questions, the areas of shared life, and the paths through them.
Free reading, no account needed. Public sign-up is not open.
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Useful, with limits.
When this is the wrong tool
If either of you is afraid of the other, the agreement work is the wrong tool — not because of anything you’ve done, but because an agreement can’t make anyone safe.
Four things we won’t do.
- We won’t tell you your odds.
- Help is never behind a payment.
- We won’t keep you here.
- We won’t flatter you.
Can I start on my own?
Yes. Your full profile is useful on its own. A shared Report and Your Terms need both people’s answers.
Will this tell us whether we should stay together?
No. Terms of Us does not score your relationship, predict its future or choose a side. It helps you see your expectations and put your own decisions into words.
Is public sign-up open?
A private pilot is running. Public sign-up is not open. The screens above are static product examples, not a live survey.
Public sign-up opens soon.Read The Bearing, freeIs this legal advice or legal protection?
No. An agreement is not legal advice or legal protection. Nothing you write here has legal force.