For the days after something was broken, when the order you do things in matters more than usual.
Who this is for
Something has been broken, and you are both still in the days straight after it.
What it is
Four steps in a deliberate order: name what happened against what you actually agreed, take the repair you decided on while calm, work through the seven mediation steps without either of you seeing the other’s first answer, then change the agreement so it covers this.
The steps, in order
You can take them out of order. Nothing here locks a module, and no step waits on the one before it.
Change the agreement so this is covered, rather than assuming it will not happen again.
A route, not a gate
A route is a named list of modules with something written down at the end of it. Nothing in a route locks anything, and you can take the steps out of order.
Why a route rather than a list
Thirty-two modules is a lot to look at when you do not yet know which of them you need. A route is somebody having already answered that: these ones, in this order, because the earlier ones give the later ones something to work from. The Structural Report is easier to write an agreement from than a blank page, and it needs two finished Soundings before it exists at all.
What it does not do
It does not lock anything, and it is not a course. Nothing is withheld until you finish a step, there is no schedule, and stopping halfway costs you nothing — what you wrote stays written and the modules stay open. Where a module genuinely needs both of you, that module is what waits, exactly as it would if you had opened it on your own.
What it never shows either of you
A route shows where each of you has got to and nothing else. It does not record how long anything took, or how long the other one has left something undone. Elapsed time is not a number this product prints about a person.